I attended a recent event at the Southbank, where Steven Bartlett and Simon Sinek discussed the topic of vulnerability and its transformative impact on our lives. In a world that often values strength and self-sufficiency, embracing vulnerability can be a game-changer.
Let’s face it though, embracing vulnerability is easier said than done. We all have insecurities, those little inner saboteurs that whisper in our ears and make us doubt ourselves. But what happens when these insecurities follow us into the workplace? Is it possible to share our vulnerabilities authentically while maintaining emotional professionalism?
In a professional setting, we often find ourselves striving for perfection and projecting an image of competence and confidence. We hide our insecurities behind a mask, fearing that revealing them might be seen as weakness. But the truth is, vulnerability and authenticity can actually be catalysts for growth and connection – both in our personal lives and at work. It’s all about finding the right balance.
Firstly, it’s important to recognise that vulnerability is not synonymous with unprofessionalism. It takes courage to acknowledge and share your insecurities with your colleagues. It shows strength, self-awareness, and willingness to learn and grow. Remember, we’re all human, and experiencing self-doubt is an inherent part of being alive. So, don’t be afraid to be genuine and open up about your struggles when appropriate.
But hold on a second! Sharing doesn’t mean pouring your heart out to just anyone in the office. It’s crucial to assess the situation and determine whom you can trust. Opening up to a colleague who is empathetic, and understanding might help you establish a deeper connection and build a stronger support system. But it’s wise to exercise caution when discussing personal insecurities with those more senior or in a competitive environment. Maintain a level of professionalism without sacrificing your emotional well-being.
So, how can we navigate this balancing act effectively? Here are a few tips from my experience:
- Self-reflection is key: Take the time to understand your insecurities better. Reflect on their origin and how they manifest in the workplace. Self-awareness is your superpower in managing vulnerabilities while still maintaining professionalism.
- Choose your confidants wisely: Find a trustworthy colleague or mentor who will lend a compassionate ear. But always remember that not everyone is equipped to handle or understand your vulnerabilities. Gauge the trustworthiness of each person before baring your soul.
- Timing is everything: Sharing your insecurities during an appropriate moment is crucial. Avoid discussing personal issues during important meetings or in front of a larger audience. Instead, choose a private, informal setting where you feel comfortable.
- Seek constructive feedback: Or as Simon Sinek refers to them ‘Notes’ Being open to receiving notes of constructive criticism can help you overcome your insecurities while enhancing your professional growth. Be receptive and learn from it instead of letting it undermine your confidence.
- Practice self-compassion: Remember to be kind to yourself. Accept that insecurities and vulnerabilities are a part of being human. Treat yourself with compassion, just as you would treat a friend who is going through a similar situation. Celebrate your successes, no matter how small, and applaud your resilience.
By embracing vulnerability while maintaining professionalism, we can create a healthier, more empathetic work environment. When we choose to be open about our insecurities, we create opportunities for growth, foster understanding, and build stronger connections with our colleagues.
So, let’s challenge the societal norm that insists we leave our emotional baggage at the door. Instead, let’s navigate the delicate balance between sharing our vulnerabilities and maintaining emotional professionalism. The workplace should be a space where we’re encouraged to be our authentic selves, insecurities and all.
Let’s redefine workplace dynamics and empower ourselves and others to embrace vulnerability as an essential ingredient for personal and professional success.
About the author: Jenny Garrett OBE is CEO of Jenny Garrett Global and an award-winning career coach, author and leadership trainer. Together with her team, they deliver impactful development to support women and those from ethnically diverse backgrounds to progress at work, as well as supporting majority group leaders to make inclusion happen.
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